TOUGH LOVE COMING AT YOU MY FRIEND!!!
You know it really surprises me. So many said before this virus that they didn't have time to workout or take care of certain things or even clean. Now that it is here, most jobs are on hold, but yet SOME are just sitting in front of the TV for hours!
It just baffles me, you know why? It was NEVER about that you didn't HAVE time. You just didn't want to MAKE time for yourself! Am I right?
Think about your goals and what you want to obtain my friend, are you TRULY working towards them? If not, are you STILL discouraged at where you are at? What have you done to work TOWARDS that goal?
This newsletter will offer some tough love my peeps! If you are lacking motivation to start, stick with it, I need you to find a better reason than, "I just want to be healthy and fit!" I am sorry but that goal is for the birds. It isn't powerful enough and in fact...WHO DOESN'T WANT THAT?
Nothing about that is special. TRULY...everyone says that. You got to dig deeper than that...you got to make yourself NEVER want to give up again! You have got to find your powerful WHY!
You know I always say that and to me, it becomes more true more now than ever because of what is going on! It was NEVER about time. That was just an excuse. You don't lack motivation... you lack WHY, determination, and desire! If you are like me, then you might feel like your goal is soooo far off that it can't be obtained. Well it won't with that attitude! Just being real!
I honestly believe you got to do personal development EVERY SINGLE DAY to keep your spirits high, your thoughts positive, and your determination STRONG! Otherwise, you will quit. I know I always try to be positive, but after seeing some of the excuses go down here lately, I think it needs to be said!
I am about to get really vulnerable with you, because when you put your excuses LAST and your WHY FIRST...MAGIC HAPPENS!!😊
First off, know this, my family is my everything and I still see this virus and being off as a blessing to spend more time with family, get rest, get caught up, and that doesn't mean I am not saying the lives lost doesn't matter. I am saying everything happens for a reason and I am choosing to focus on what I can control and that is my reaction to it. I have a little boy who is looking up to me and I don't want him to have fear or panic in his heart...why do that to him? So I am making my time count and change my focus to the good because you can't control the uncontrollable!
BUT You can control your time during this phase in life and GET TO WORK with your health and fitness goals...believe me...YOU GOT TIME!!
I seriously don't know how I would be able to function without my family peeps. They are my life, my heart, and my soul. My husband, Tony, food prepped for me so I could play with Shawn....it was the best!
When I was down wrestling and hiding in some places, my mind started to think about when I was heavier. I remember Shawn turning one and he was crawling and all over the place, and I was thinking to myself...man...you are fast!
What I didn't realize at the time, was how much of a struggle I had with just bending over and getting down and just interacting with them. I wanted it to happen, but when it did, I was in pain. My back was killing me, my knees were aching, and my stomach held me back from bending over fully. I was miserable.
I remember looking down at my stomach and thinking...If I could just cut it off and make it disappear I would be happier. I wanted that time with Shawn, but in a way was scared for it to happen, because it was a constant reminder of the struggles to come. I didn't like that. I didn't want to associate the best times with my son to be a reminder of struggles....if that makes sense.
When I finally decided to get with it, after my sugar and me blacking out at work, and the trying of the dress on for my sister's wedding. I had enough and I was at my breaking point. Up until that point, I seriously didn't care for myself. My eating habits were terrible and my exercise habits were non-existent. It was truly an eye opening experience when it all went down.
Let me just say some things that you might not want to hear...but need too. Don't get offended, because these were THE EXACT things I had to come to terms with, before I even thought about doing anything...so if they helped me...by golly...I am sharing them with you!!
HERE SHE GOES...
I want to break it down real simple for you...so we are numbering these bad lads...plus it is the nerd in me:
Choices Everyday - You have choices every single day you wake up. You have a choice to stay in bed, push that snooze one more time, or lay there and be sad and hopeless. Let me say you are NOT hopeless you are lazy! That was my problem...I was extremely lazy. You like to lay there and be all comfortable, but ask yourself this...Is laying here helping you change those feelings you had when you struggled with your weight, trying on clothes, playing with your children? Is laying there helping you get a head start on your day and to prove to yourself that you can have a better day than it was yesterday? The choice is and was always there...pick the one that will advance you...not hold you in the same spot.
Emotional Eating? - What are you putting in your mouth to feed your emotions? My BIGGEST problem!! Remember I was shoveling in the pizza, the ice cream, and the chocolate to feed my emotions. What really needs to happen is that you need face them instead of trying to burying them. You have choices...yet again...to put healthy foods in your mouth. Is that Little Debbie cake really going to make you look better or are you just feeding an emotion?? YOU seriously got to ask yourself, WHY are you eating this. If you can't come up with a good reason it is totally on impulse and habit. The choices to eat bad food was happening to me daily....I had to stop choosing the food that was slowly putting me in my grave and start choosing the ones that was going to make me the active parent for my son and allow me to run and play with him. Every action you choose...think how it will affect your future....every....single....choice....affects...your....future! (Remember this...sooo very important!!)
Your future self - How do you want your future health to be? Would you prefer to lay in a hospital bed with no limbs from your incredible high sugar and bad eating habits? I was sooo headed that way! You don't eat 36 candy bars a week forever with no consequences. Just saying! You have to picture yourself in the future....you might be fine now, but what about later? I don't know about you, but I want to be feeling young, healthy, and free from health problems and concerns.
Stop Complaining and Start Doing - You can't complain about your body if you don't do anything about it. Simple as that. I was a complainer...I hated everything about my belly, my back fat, my thighs, you name it...I hated it. I compared like crazy, but that seriously got me nowhere. Stop comparing and start doing!! The faster you start doing, the faster you can get started on your journey, and the closer you will become to your goals...doing nothing actually requires the same about of energy than just getting in and getting out. So instead of complaining...get a plan together and love the skin you are in!
How is your WHY Power?? You know your driving motivation? If it isn't powerful enough, you will fall off track and get back to your old ways. That is not what I want for you. I want you to stick with it...this will be a lifestyle change...not a diet...not something you can run and hide from...You will embrace it, because you have it...because you need to, and because you have a powerful WHY. Mine was my son, my sister's wedding, and my sugar. We all have a story...we all have our reasons, don't let down yourself or your loved ones. Prove to yourself you are better than your old ways...because believe me you are!!
Remember the food you put in your mouth can be your disease or your cure to your health problems and you have the power to control it all. Stop being a slave to the junk and get moving in the healthy, happy direction. Your future self will thank you and you have nothing but LOVE to give to yourself...Heck why not treat the body that God blessed you with...like the temple that it is.
Respect and love yourself forever and always my friend!!
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